How to Forgive When You Can’t: The Breakthrough Guide to Free Your Heart and Mind



Jim Dincalci


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222 pages
6 x 0.5 x 9 inches

Winner of 4 US awards! Published in 9 languages!

Nobel Peace Prize winner, Archbishop Desmond Tutu acknowledged Dr. Jim Dincalci for his contribution to his book, The Book of Forgiving, and spending “over twenty-five years counseling and teaching people who are struggling to forgive.”

Forgiveness: Is easier said than done.
You have been wronged and you cannot get past it. Whatever the cause of your resentment, you are finding it extremely difficult to forgive and forget. Maybe you are not even sure you want to.

Who is really being hurt?
The person you are hurting most by holding on to your resentment and anger is yourself. Unforgiven offenses eat at you, whether you know it or not, infusing your life with a bitterness that prevents you from finding peace.
Essentially, refusing to forgive is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

How to Forgive When You Can’t will help you move past your upsets. Forgiveness is not as simple as saying the words, I forgive you. It is not that artificial. Instead, forgiveness is a process. Through clear-cut strategies and compassion-inspiring stories, Dr. Dincalci teaches you the techniques that will enable you to work through your emotions on the road to peace and joy.

This book provides proven, powerful methods that will help you get rid of your upsets for good – even those that seem unforgivable. It gives over ways, in detail, that help heal a lifetime of resentment, grudges, and especially regret, guilt, and self-blame. It helps deal with heavy trauma and abuse. Self-forgiveness is important in this work.

The author, Dr. Jim Dincalci, provides: brain and clinical research, case studies, and how to maintain gains made. Mental health, legal, religious, and medical professionals will find it useful as a guide to help people cope with very difficult problems.

You will learn:
1- The 8 Essentials and 7 Secrets for dealing with upsets.
2- 30 successful forgiveness techniques
3- What all trauma survivors and their family members need to know.
4- How to effectively deal with the emotional blocks that prevent forgiving.
5- The 5 best strategies for difficult situations.
6- How to escape the cycle of victimhood and guilt.


•This is an outstanding book. What an invaluable and needed book for our times. – Angeles Arrien, Ph.D., Anthropologist/Author/
•This book has set me free! I knew something was wrong, but I could not figure it out. I was able to let them go. LeVonder Brinkley, Ph.D., Author/Speaker
•I had no idea that I would receive gifts so much greater than understanding the concepts and put the ideas into practice. This book helped to renew my spirit. I highly recommend this book. A well-spent effort on self-improvement. – G. Thomas, M.D.
•By using methods in this book, it was easy to release upsets that I never really felt I could deal with. Dr. Dincalci covers an extensive list of forgiveness techniques, providing the tools to tackle any upset. -Eric Donaldson, Ph.D., University Researcher
•Dr. Dincalci’s approach helped me find an internal peace long sought after. It has helped me deal with patients and students in my clinical practice. –P. Mahurin, Nurse Practitioner
•The reading is infused with evocative and inspiring quotations which enrich and sustain the reader’s focus throughout. This book is a reference to return to again and again as one pursues forgiveness thoroughly. – N. Morano, Ph.D., ABBP, Diplomate-Clinical Psych.
•If you are at all interested in forgiving, read this book. It can save you time, money and heartache. —Kenneth Lebensold, JD, Ph.D.
•This is a really good forgiveness book. It is clear, helpful and wise. Anyone who brings a hurt or grievance to this work will be helped. —Fred Luskin, Ph.D., author –Forgive for Good, and Forgive for Love.

Jim Dincalci

“The more I do this forgiveness work, the more I continue to be astounded at the power of forgiveness to heal all avenues of life - physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. When people forgive, their lives become richer, healthier, happier and certainly filled with more love and peace.” - Dr. Jim In 1993, Dr. Jim Dincalci had a deep personal forgiveness transformation which pulled him out of Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder he had for over 16 years. Since then, as a Child & Family Therapist, university instructor and founder of the Forgiveness Foundation International, he has been developing methods to help people forgive and has taught these from coast to coast in the USA and internationally in universities, schools, hospitals, businesses, agencies, conferences, public seminars and churches. He frequently speaks and teaches on dealing with betrayal, self-forgiveness, conflict resolution, stress reduction, with forgiveness, which are all integrated into his workshops and books. His MA is in Counseling Psychology 1986 and Doctorates are in Religious Studies and Divinity 2006. His book, How to Forgive When You Can't: The Breakthrough Guide to Free Your Heart and Mind, is published in 9 languages. It is the the winner of the Living Now Book Award in Personal Growth; winner of the Global eBook Awards in psychology/Mental Health; a finalist in the Indie Book Awards - Self-Help; and finalist in the esteemed Foreword Review Magazine Book of the Year Award in Self-Help. It integrates research in Forgiveness Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Neuroscience, and his 50 years of studying world religions and their time-proven practices, including cross-cultural healing ways, i.e. prayers and meditations, and inspirational viewpoints, which all aid in forgiving. These methods helped him in his own forgiveness transformation in 1993. That transformation and his forgiveness work with others has encouraged him to become a very strong advocate for the development of an effective forgiveness therapy and training. His books and organization are the result of that work. He is the founder and CEO of The Forgiveness Foundation, a 501(c)(3) non profit charity, since 2002, whose objective is: Increasing good-will, kindness, and peace all over the world. From the 1960's to the early 90, he worked in traditional and alternative health, and pastoral counseling. He trained intensively with anthropologists in cross-cultural healing for over ten years. From 1984 to 1991, he taught graduate and undergraduate courses in cross-cultural healing & spiritual perspectives at John F. Kennedy University, Institute of Transpersonal Psychology, and California Institute of Integral Studies, all in the San Francisco Bay Area. His professional counseling experience besides his private practice include being a Clinical Therapist with the Hawaii Department Education, three years of facilitating domestic violence and anger control groups for court-ordered men and for teens in prison, and running regular group counseling at a local drug and alcohol recovery center. He is trained as a police, fire, and emergency medical chaplain, and worked as a volunteer Law Enforcement Chaplain in Sonoma County, California. In 2017, he presented at The World Peace Conference in Ann Arbor, MI. His professional conference presentations include: the Assoc. of Transpersonal Psychology in 1986-89, the Campaign for Forgiveness Research 2003, Florida Hospice & Palliative Care Assoc. 2017, FL Council on Crime & Delinquency-Criminal Justice 2016, and Keynote speaker twice at the Wholistic Women’s Empowerment Experience in Durham, NC 2010 & 11. Internationally, he has given seminars and workshops at Cayetano Herrera University Medical School in Lima, Peru, The Stress and Anxiety Research Society 37th Annual Conference 2016 in Zagreb, Croatia, and the International Congress of Psychology 2016 in Yokohama, Japan. In California, he was an Assistant Professor in the Mediation and Conflict Resolution Program at Sonoma State University for several years. He taught semester courses John F Kennedy Univ. along with several other colleges and universities and then at Duke University – Durham, NC, and in Tallahassee - Florida State University and Florida A&M University. His counseling experience besides his private practice include being a Clinical Therapist with the Hawaii Department Education. He has three years of experience as a facilitator in domestic violence and anger control groups for court-ordered men and for teens in prison; has run regular group counseling at a local drug and alcohol recovery center. He is trained as a police, fire, and emergency medical chaplain, and worked as a volunteer Law Enforcement Chaplain in Sonoma County, California. He is an officer in his Rotary Club and a member of the Executive Committee of Big Bend Coalition Against Human Trafficking, a Tallahassee regional organization. His hobbies are photography, travel, and woodwork; and was a meditation instructor for 8 years.
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