Dear Bi Men

An unapologetic guide for readers who are Black, masc, and bi—unlearning biphobia, coming out, combatting erasure, and embodying your whole self

Through cutting social analysis, personal stories, and need‐to‐know advice, Dear Bi Men reclaims bi+ visibility in a culture of erasure—and unapologetically centers Blackness in a practical and deeply researched guide to navigating life, work, and relationships as a Black bi+ man.

Popular representation of bi and pansexual men is growing, but we’re not there yet: It’s mostly white. It collapses bisexual identity into tired, hypersexualized tropes. And it fails to interrogate the deeply entrenched stereotypes that insist: You’re confused. You just don’t know you’re gay. You’re greedy. You must be great in bed.

Author, peer counselor, and creator of #bisexualmenspeak J.R. Yussuf pushes back against these stigmas and misconceptions, exploring how white supremacy reinforces biphobia and dictates what society thinks it means to “be a man.” He contextualizes discourse around queerness and bisexuality within a larger framework that honors readers’ intersecting identities. And he offers deeply practical advice, sharing how to:

• Unlearn internalized biphobia and homophobia
• Navigate an increasingly hostile digital landscape
• Think about coming out: who to tell, why to tell them, and how to do it

• Fight back against erasure and stigma
• Navigate sex, dating, partnerships, marriage, friendship, and work
• Understand your bi+ sexuality through a political lens
• Process Black bi+ representation

Rich with personal narratives, insightful analysis, and practical advice, this book is a powerful resource for Black bi+ men to reclaim their identity, counter biphobia, and get empowered—and an offering to all readers looking to fight back against the erasure and dehumanization wrought by patriarchy.

FOR BLACK BISEXUAL MEN and BIPOC men/masc folks who are pan, bi, fluid, or exploring their sexuality
FOR QUEER READERS looking to deepen their understanding of intersectional queer identity; break down binaries; and challenge cisheteronormative

constructions of gender and sexuality

UNDERPUBLISHED TOPIC, UNDERSERVED MARKET: Bi/pan/fluid identity—particularly from BIPOC and masc perspectives—is sorely overlooked in queer studies.

TIMELY AND IMPORTANT: Sure to resonate among younger generations of readers who are actively breaking down constructs of gender and sexuality. FIRST-PERSON EXPERIENCE, FRAME-CHANGING IDEAS: Yussuf speaks directly to and from the Black bi+ experience, offering accessible yet challeng‐

ing ideas for readers who have dipped into gender studies and want to go deeper.

COMPLEMENTARY RESOURCES: Online supplement of reflection questions, further reading recommendations, and workbook‐style prompts.

BREAKS DOWN BINARIES: Challenges the rigid “either/or”s that are embedded in our cultural constructs of sexuality and gender.

CHALLENGES TIRED IDEAS ABOUT MASCULINITY and invites readers to expand and liberate their ideas about masculinity, femininity, gender, and sexuality.

EMERGING AUTHOR PLATFORM: Yussuf has a solid and growing platform (YouTube series; #WhenBisexualMenSpeak) and has written for Wear Your Voice, Men’s Health, and Thrive. He’s invested in developing his platform further.