Choose Your Self

A holistic therapist’s guide for women struggling with dating, to help heal and end harmful patterns and nurture relationship with self.

As a society, we relate to singlehood as a phase that should be rushed and remedied by finding a partner, rather than relating to it as our most potent opportunity for growth. But the truth is that if the priority is on being chosen over being the one to choose, women are more likely to keep ending up with the wrong partner. It’s time to break these old patterns and embrace single life with compassion. “One of the great advantages of spending time intentionally single,” shares expert coach and therapist Megan Sherer, “is having time to self-reflect, to learn from your past, and to experiment with new ways of being. Key word: “intentionally.”

Sherer teaches how to fall in love with your own life and be unwilling to waver in the pursuit of a relationship as strong as the one you build within yourself. Using personal story as well as potent reflection prompts, somatic exercises, and self-care practices, she shepherds you through the process of moving beyond personal obstacles to new levels of self-awareness in order to build a rock-solid foundation for your relationship with self.

It’s time to move from the disempowered experience of loneliness to an empowered version of singlehood—one filled with joy, adventure, play, passion, and all the other things that you thought you had to wait for the perfect person to experience. You are that person, and that time is now.